Aim for Awesomeness

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You need to feel down sometimes in order to appreciate the good in life. Everybody knows that, right?

This is true because…?

Then do you also intentionally buy uncomfortable shoes too, in order to appreciate the comfort of taking them off? Or to more appreciate the shoes you have that actually don’t hurt you?

Whenever shit hits the fan and things get difficult, by all means learn what you can from it, get up, suit up and use it as a stepping stone for greater things. But don’t for a moment believe that a certain amount of hardship is necessary and that we humans need a fair share of misery to appreciate the good in life. Because we don’t.

Aim for awesomeness everyday and expect nothing less. Don’t aim for some good and some bad to show up, ensuring you a mediocre life and nothing more. Life is exactly what you make of it. Realize that you have the power to create exactly the life you want. And use it!!

Hardship is only necessary until you realize that it isn’t necessary.

Are you growing through what you are going through?

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Life presents you with all sorts of problems and difficulties. Situations don’t turn out the way you want them to, people let you down and things go pear-shaped. As much as these struggles, big or small, are an integral part of everybody’s life, it is pretty normal to feel that something has gone wrong somewhere. The unpleasant notion that you are experiencing something you shouldn’t be experiencing in an ideal world.

MuscularBlackManPushupsI like to think that just as physical strength is not built while chilling out on the sofa, mental and spiritual strength is not created while floating around on a pink cloud. We need problems to grow and learn. Without a problem there can never be a solution. Without resistance there can never be any release.

When you learn something in school you are probably learning it because you don’t already know it. You attend lessons and are given problems in the form of assignments and exercises to practice your new skills. Everyone accepts this as a natural way of learning. However, when life presents you with the same opportunities to grow, learn and refine your skill-set then the normal response is to freak out and see the whole situation as something undesired. Something must have gone wrong.

Not long ago a friend came to me with a relationship problem. She has struggled in the relationship department for a while, and had now found a partner who wasn’t giving her what she wanted. She could not get the validation she craved and was therefore considering ending the relationship as she felt that the guy was not worthy of her. Just like many of her well-meaning girlfriends had already assured her he wasn’t.

My first reaction when listening to her talking about her heartache, doubts and stress in her relationship was that life had decided to send her a lesson in the form of a man who was not feeding her insecurities. This is an opportunity for her to learn that no one can ever love you enough if you don’t love yourself, and an opportunity to learn that the validation of others should be completely irrelevant. Others can only make you feel bad if you give them the power to rule your world.

Some might say that this is a cold response that lacks empathy. Don’t get me wrong, I have been where she is and know how devastatingly painful it is to crave the attention of someone who is not giving it to you. However, it was only through going through this pain and refusing to see it as something that was going to get to me, I was able to realize that I alone am in charge of how I feel. I had to learn this if I am ever to have a healthy relationship with anyone, and the universe presented me with the perfect learning situation for this. At a time when I was ready.

vintage flowers backgroundLife’s lessons should not be seen as punishment, but rather the opposite. It means that you are ready to grow some more, that you have the chance to become something greater and stronger than you already are. Tackling problems with this attitude is empowerment on a new level. Don’t ever see yourself as a victim, because trust me, the rest of the world is not seeing you as a victim until you proclaim that you are one. And how do we proclaim this? By complaining about the unfairness of your miserable life, which through the law of attraction just makes sure there is a steady supply of gloom headed your way.

A Course in Miracles starts by saying that it is a required course, which I think is a great way of seeing life. I see life as a course and embrace the contrast that is headed my way, because it was attracted by the best in me to make me stronger than I was before.

I saw an inspirational quote in a gym once:

  • It doesn’t get easier. You just get better.

I think that sums up life pretty well. Take every opportunity to grow and don’t have a meltdown whenever the universe sends you a lesson you can learn from. And chill out! It’s not like any of us are getting out alive.

Growingly yours,

Kristian

 

PS! Just like when you fail something in school, the universe will keep sending you the same lesson over and over again until you get it. How many times you want to re-live the same problem depends on how eager you are to learn.

 

Universal Attraction

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What if you could be, do and have everything you ever wanted? Live in an enormous mansion with your own personal butler and a gorgeously stunning dream partner who matches and contrasts you in every perfect way possible. Of course with an endless supply of money and harmonious relationships with everyone in your life, including your family, colleagues and even government.

Sounds pretty swell, doesn’t it? But as we all know, nobody has perfect lives like that!  Or do they? I’m sure we can all agree on one thing: Some people have happier lives than most. Many have pretty shitty lives. And the rest of us fall somewhere in between, also known as mediocrity. But let’s not talk about mediocre things. That’s boring. Let’s look at those people who have it all. Why are some more fortunate than the rest? Luck? Fate? Hard work? Karma? Intellect?

Key of successI believe that their secret exclusively lies in consciously, or more likely unconsciously, wielding the Law of Attraction to their benefit.

The Law of Attraction has been known in more alternative circles for a very long time. It only really hit mainstream awareness in 2006 through the heavily marketed film and book named The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.

So what is the Law of Attraction? The Law of Attraction says that like attracts like, or that that which is like unto itself, is drawn. In practical terms this means that the thoughts you think draw the essence of them into your physical experience. In other words: If you think negative thoughts the universe with all its power will send matching negative experiences into your life. And vice versa: If you think thoughts of abundance and happiness, then the whole universe will conspire to bring just this into your life.

To most people this sounds a little too good to be true. Come on!! If it were that simple, everyone would be millionaires! Well, let me ask you: How problem oriented are your thoughts on average? How often do you focus on limitations instead of possibilities? Start observing your thoughts during a day. How many of them are truly magical? And how many of them are focused on dealing with everyday boring stuff? I am guessing it is a little bit of everything. Which probably also describes most people’s lives: A little bit of misery, a little bit of ecstasy and lots and lots of plain mediocrity called everyday life. Am I right? Unfortunately, this law is only attracting and not repulsing. It doesn’t matter if you want something or not. Whatever you give your attention to is what you’re getting (or rather perpetuating) whether it be a terrible love life or a duller than dull job. Moaning about nothing ever changing or getting better? Well, tadaaaa: Nothing ever changing or getting better is what you are attracting more of.

I have been fascinated by the concept of the Law of Attraction since I “coincidentally” stumbled across The Secret in a bookstore in Trondheim several years back. The idea sounded fantastic but somehow I wasn’t able to put this magic into practice. This did not change until December last year when I in a similar fashion “coincidentally” stumbled across a book by Esther and Jerry Hicks about Abraham. Finally I discovered tools to start taming this incredible force that sounds all too good to be true for an educated and rational mind.

Figure emerges from lightNine months have passed since I discovered Abraham in that bookstore. After nine months of learning to apply the principles of the Law of Attraction into my life, I have absolutely no doubt that I through my thoughts am the sole creator of this life experience. I use quotation marks around coincidentally in the paragraph above because I honestly do not believe in coincidences anymore. I attracted those books into my experience, because absolutely nothing can enter my life without me consciously or unconsciously inviting it in through the thoughts I think. If I think high vibrational, happy thoughts I am creating good things for myself. If I on the other hand am thinking pessimistic, negative thoughts that is what I am getting. I therefore take the full and complete responsibility for everything in my life. Both the good and the bad. And this feels great!

But does this mean that everyone who are going through hard times, experiencing hellish situations and generally are suffering are responsible for this themselves? Yes, indeed! Absolutely 100%!

No one is however suggesting that anyone has created their misery purposely. It is a matter of not being aware of the incredible power of thought, simply because this has never been taught to us. So although this might be a little bit (or actually a lot) in your face this really should be excellent news to everyone. If you are responsible for your own misery, this also means that you, and you alone can turn this around. A 180 degrees pivot to something you actually want.

For the smart people out there I am sure some of you are wondering: What about children being molested? What about people being born in war torn areas and in immense poverty? This is all explained consistently if you are interested to look into it further. I have personally not found anything here that has not made perfect sense to me. And I don’t see myself as neither delusional nor particularly easy to fool.

Deliberately selecting your thoughts can be a real challenge, especially to begin with. Going from a mindset where you believe that your own and other people’s actions create your life to one where your thoughts are the forerunners to everything is not done overnight. Let me just clarify, you need to think consistent thoughts in order to deliberately create your own reality. Any doubts, fears of this not manifesting etc will work against you. Faith and positive expectations are crucial components, even before you see any physical evidence of your dream manifesting. In case anyone is wondering, I have not received my millions just yet (but I’m sure they’ll come). It is however an incredibly fun, exciting and rewarding process where you slowly but surely start seeing results of the shift.

Driving on an empty road towards the setting sunSo who is Abraham? I think I will save introducing Abraham for another post. To quote Oprah, herself a fan, not everyone is ready to take in all that Abraham is. I will however warmly recommend the curious ones of you to go searching, Abraham should not be too hard to find.

But I must warn you: This is like taking that red pill in The Matrix.

You cannot go back to not knowing once you have started to grasp the incredible power of the Law of Attraction. But unlike The Matrix, the reality you wake up to is not at all cold and hostile. It is amazingly wonderful.

I have found that the Law of Attraction is like the Law of Gravity: Accurate, predictable and completely non-discriminatory. Whether you choose to believe in gravity or whether you are a nice person or not is irrelevant. Everyone who  jumps off a building on Planet Earth will fall down. Every time. No exceptions! Similarly, whether you choose to believe in attraction or not, every worrying, happy, fearful and loving thought is creating and will continue to create your reality. Whether you believe in it or not. I am not here to talk anyone into believing in this because you are the only person who could and should decide in your life. But if I through this post has made someone a little bit curious to go searching for their own truths, then that’s great. We must all find our own path. In our own way and in our own time.

Attracting You,

Kristian