Universal Attraction

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What if you could be, do and have everything you ever wanted? Live in an enormous mansion with your own personal butler and a gorgeously stunning dream partner who matches and contrasts you in every perfect way possible. Of course with an endless supply of money and harmonious relationships with everyone in your life, including your family, colleagues and even government.

Sounds pretty swell, doesn’t it? But as we all know, nobody has perfect lives like that!  Or do they? I’m sure we can all agree on one thing: Some people have happier lives than most. Many have pretty shitty lives. And the rest of us fall somewhere in between, also known as mediocrity. But let’s not talk about mediocre things. That’s boring. Let’s look at those people who have it all. Why are some more fortunate than the rest? Luck? Fate? Hard work? Karma? Intellect?

Key of successI believe that their secret exclusively lies in consciously, or more likely unconsciously, wielding the Law of Attraction to their benefit.

The Law of Attraction has been known in more alternative circles for a very long time. It only really hit mainstream awareness in 2006 through the heavily marketed film and book named The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.

So what is the Law of Attraction? The Law of Attraction says that like attracts like, or that that which is like unto itself, is drawn. In practical terms this means that the thoughts you think draw the essence of them into your physical experience. In other words: If you think negative thoughts the universe with all its power will send matching negative experiences into your life. And vice versa: If you think thoughts of abundance and happiness, then the whole universe will conspire to bring just this into your life.

To most people this sounds a little too good to be true. Come on!! If it were that simple, everyone would be millionaires! Well, let me ask you: How problem oriented are your thoughts on average? How often do you focus on limitations instead of possibilities? Start observing your thoughts during a day. How many of them are truly magical? And how many of them are focused on dealing with everyday boring stuff? I am guessing it is a little bit of everything. Which probably also describes most people’s lives: A little bit of misery, a little bit of ecstasy and lots and lots of plain mediocrity called everyday life. Am I right? Unfortunately, this law is only attracting and not repulsing. It doesn’t matter if you want something or not. Whatever you give your attention to is what you’re getting (or rather perpetuating) whether it be a terrible love life or a duller than dull job. Moaning about nothing ever changing or getting better? Well, tadaaaa: Nothing ever changing or getting better is what you are attracting more of.

I have been fascinated by the concept of the Law of Attraction since I “coincidentally” stumbled across The Secret in a bookstore in Trondheim several years back. The idea sounded fantastic but somehow I wasn’t able to put this magic into practice. This did not change until December last year when I in a similar fashion “coincidentally” stumbled across a book by Esther and Jerry Hicks about Abraham. Finally I discovered tools to start taming this incredible force that sounds all too good to be true for an educated and rational mind.

Figure emerges from lightNine months have passed since I discovered Abraham in that bookstore. After nine months of learning to apply the principles of the Law of Attraction into my life, I have absolutely no doubt that I through my thoughts am the sole creator of this life experience. I use quotation marks around coincidentally in the paragraph above because I honestly do not believe in coincidences anymore. I attracted those books into my experience, because absolutely nothing can enter my life without me consciously or unconsciously inviting it in through the thoughts I think. If I think high vibrational, happy thoughts I am creating good things for myself. If I on the other hand am thinking pessimistic, negative thoughts that is what I am getting. I therefore take the full and complete responsibility for everything in my life. Both the good and the bad. And this feels great!

But does this mean that everyone who are going through hard times, experiencing hellish situations and generally are suffering are responsible for this themselves? Yes, indeed! Absolutely 100%!

No one is however suggesting that anyone has created their misery purposely. It is a matter of not being aware of the incredible power of thought, simply because this has never been taught to us. So although this might be a little bit (or actually a lot) in your face this really should be excellent news to everyone. If you are responsible for your own misery, this also means that you, and you alone can turn this around. A 180 degrees pivot to something you actually want.

For the smart people out there I am sure some of you are wondering: What about children being molested? What about people being born in war torn areas and in immense poverty? This is all explained consistently if you are interested to look into it further. I have personally not found anything here that has not made perfect sense to me. And I don’t see myself as neither delusional nor particularly easy to fool.

Deliberately selecting your thoughts can be a real challenge, especially to begin with. Going from a mindset where you believe that your own and other people’s actions create your life to one where your thoughts are the forerunners to everything is not done overnight. Let me just clarify, you need to think consistent thoughts in order to deliberately create your own reality. Any doubts, fears of this not manifesting etc will work against you. Faith and positive expectations are crucial components, even before you see any physical evidence of your dream manifesting. In case anyone is wondering, I have not received my millions just yet (but I’m sure they’ll come). It is however an incredibly fun, exciting and rewarding process where you slowly but surely start seeing results of the shift.

Driving on an empty road towards the setting sunSo who is Abraham? I think I will save introducing Abraham for another post. To quote Oprah, herself a fan, not everyone is ready to take in all that Abraham is. I will however warmly recommend the curious ones of you to go searching, Abraham should not be too hard to find.

But I must warn you: This is like taking that red pill in The Matrix.

You cannot go back to not knowing once you have started to grasp the incredible power of the Law of Attraction. But unlike The Matrix, the reality you wake up to is not at all cold and hostile. It is amazingly wonderful.

I have found that the Law of Attraction is like the Law of Gravity: Accurate, predictable and completely non-discriminatory. Whether you choose to believe in gravity or whether you are a nice person or not is irrelevant. Everyone who  jumps off a building on Planet Earth will fall down. Every time. No exceptions! Similarly, whether you choose to believe in attraction or not, every worrying, happy, fearful and loving thought is creating and will continue to create your reality. Whether you believe in it or not. I am not here to talk anyone into believing in this because you are the only person who could and should decide in your life. But if I through this post has made someone a little bit curious to go searching for their own truths, then that’s great. We must all find our own path. In our own way and in our own time.

Attracting You,

Kristian

The easy way to stop smoking

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I used to smoke like a chimney. Literally. I used to say I smoked 20 a day but being completely honest, I was probably more of a 50-a-day smoker. Yeah. That bad! I am happy to say that in January it had been five years since I smoked my last cigarette. Reactions I get when I tell people I have gone five years without a smoke are normally along the lines of:

Wow! That’s amazing! You should  be really proud of yourself!

Which of course is very nice to hear and excellent for boosting my ego, but truth be told I almost feel like a cheat taking credit for it. Why? Because it has been dead easy! Yeah, that’s right! Quitting smoking was easy peasy. And had it not been that easy I would not be writing this post today. I am constitutionally incapable of not enjoying myself and I have no resilience whatsoever against sweet little habits that give me instant satisfaction. None. Nada. My willpower against cigarettes was (and probably still is) virtually non-existent. If I had wanted a cigarette even once in the last 5,5 years I probably would have smoked it. But I haven’t wanted one.

Anyone who has ever been addicted to nicotine knows that the mere thought of quitting is overwhelming. Like looking into an endless, unhappy abyss which is the rest of your life. What doesn’t really help is that smokers constantly hear how incredibly hard it is to give it up. You may have heard the expression Once a smoker – Always a smoker. You know, the ones who even after 20 years still want a cigarette, and who go through the rest of their days feeling deprived of something that used to bring them great pleasure. How sad! Really. What in God’s name is the point of quitting if you cannot enjoy it? Make no mistake: I am here to tell you that when I quit smoking I thoroughly enjoyed every step of the process.

So what is this miracle cure? Hypnosis? Antidepressants? Jesus? Nope. I went to a 5 hour workshop (with smoking breaks) one late afternoon in Oslo on January 11, 2007. That was all.

You may have heard of the book The Easy Way to Stop Smoking by Allen Carr. I had read that book five times prior to January 2007. All five times I had stopped smoking but started again after everything from 2 days to 2 months. I liked the method but somehow it just would not stick. Luckily, there were also workshops available where you could learn to quit using the same method, but from a live person instead of a book. You cannot ask a book anything if you want something clarified, don’t understand something or let it know that you disagree. With an instructor you can, and I believe that made all the difference. The workshop was led by a former smoker by the name René who the whole experience very enjoyable.

The method is no hocus pokus. You learn why you think you smoke, and why you actually smoke. You may think you smoke because you like the taste, it relaxes you and so on. But honestly, anyone who has ever smoked a cigarette knows that they don’t exactly taste like strawberries and cream. And cigarettes as a relaxant? Try to notice your pulse before and after lighting up a cigarette in the morning. Can something that increases your heart rate really be relaxing? I will not go further into the method here, because I want to leave that to people more qualified than I.

As I said I had no willpower to resist smoking. My willpower can be strong when it comes to many things but in the face of smoking it was useless. It was like trying to climb out of a 10 meter deep hole using a 5 meter long ladder. Nothing wrong with the ladder. It is just not long enough.

I quite simply hate being miserable, and wanting a smoke and not allowing myself one is pure misery. I could never do that, so therefore I thought I was forever stuck in the nicotine trap. Albeit not being armed with sufficient willpower I did have a very strong desire to quit, but I had no idea how to do actually do it. My primary motive to stop was that I felt I was selling myself short by smoking. It was (and still is) important to me to be all that I can be, and constantly inhaling poisonous gases, coughing and not exactly smelling like roses would not exactly pull me in the right direction.

I am not writing this to showcase my success. I am writing this because I want to tell smokers who think they must choose between continuing smoking and being miserable that there is a third option: Quit smoking and be a happy non-smoker. I normally hate the phrase If I could do it, anyone can, but it is actually very true here. Try not to buy into so-called universal truths that surround you telling you how hard it is, because it doesn’t need to be. It certainly wasn’t for me, and it does not need to be like that for you. 

So if you (or someone you know) want to quit smoking I can warmly recommend these workshops. I went to one in Oslo but they are available all over the world. In case you are wondering if I am getting paid for this the answer is no. I am doing  this solely because I want others to experience the wonderful feeling it is to quit smoking.

It is time to leave the sinking ship!

Non-Smokingly Yours,

Kristian